Experiences

What do others experience

Sometimes it is nice to have an impression of what you can expect in advance. Some people find 'going into therapy' very unknown and can experience it as exciting.

But we also sometimes hear the question: "all that talking does that help?"

We have shown anonymous experiences of some clients here. This gives you the opportunity to get acquainted with what we do and the treatments we offer, so that you can start well informed and hopefully with only some healthy and normal tension.

Working with EFT

Wim and Ilse

Wim and Ilse were referred by the GP. After long urging from Wim, Ilse had agreed to visit their doctor. Soon it was mentioned that Ilse had 'been through it for a while'. At work, but especially in the relationship with Wim. She often felt alone in the company where she worked as a technical draftsman. After several reorganisations and new staff, the energy and motivation had disappeared. Wim did not tell them about it. The few times she had tried it, he had suggested that she could work less. She did not feel heard and understood. That feeling was only to be experienced more and more. In the EFT sessions it became clear that the connection between them had been under pressure for a longer time. In the sessions both got the chance to express themselves in a safe atmosphere about what they thought and especially felt. Newly experienced emotions that were named in the sessions meant that a new connection could arise. The start they made in the sessions then continued at home. After twelve sessions and a final session two months later, Ilse and Wim were able to experience each other again as 'together'.

Working with family therapy

Ellen and the rest

Ellen came together with her mother. Now that she was just 14 years old, worse at high school, it soon became clear that Ellen 'was not doing so well'. Ellen slept badly, had difficulty concentrating and was often very restless in the classroom. Her teachers thought she might have ADHD; "Ellen was very busy the last year".

Mother could agree with that, but Ellen did not at all and she refused help and also the first conversation. When we ask Ellen if she wants to make a drawing instead of talking, she responds immediately; yes she wants to. We ask her to make a drawing that tells us what her life looks like if she would do well. It becomes a drawing with a 'story'. Not the thin story of the girl with ADHD, but the 'thickened story' of the girl who had a father four years ago, two years ago, a new father, with two sisters and a brother. Actually, everything was new. And exciting, and sad. That's why she could not resist showing her 'real daddy' and her 'mom' living together in the drawing. "Ellen and her parents sit at the table in the drawing. if we propose to think twice about this for its difficult period, they think it is okay.After a few sessions it is possible to involve father in two conversations.After 9 sessions Ellen can tell that things are going better her, and with her parents she sometimes sees together again.

Working with 'A language there'

Sophia

Sophia had registered because of bad sleep and 'hassle in the family'. She would also often feel very tense. In the first discussions it soon became clear that 'talking' would not make it easier for her. In the sessions that follow we work with 'a language' a method that Sophia first finds childish but which ultimately tells what can not be said. That the history of Sophia consisted of a long period of broken family relationships and conflicts. Not being able to express emotions, wishes and desires has caused increasing isolation, worrying, poor sleep and tension for years. The sessions are rounded off with two conversations with her sister, with whom Sophia had also been patrolled. The conflicts were thus not resolved. There was, however, an atmosphere of understanding, being able to listen to each other and being prepared to restore the bond together. Sophia announced six months later that she had managed to realize a restored contact with more family members.